a colored spectrum

2 cents.

rationality cannot be seperated from emotions.
many would disagree with me but i am fully convinced by this theory.
rationality not stand alone, simply because when we eliminate choices during decision making,
it is 95% driven by "i like it", "i don't like it".
after eliminating the choices that we do not like, then we rationally weigh the rest.
thus decision making is both a rational and emotional process.

as much as many people would like to think that they are logical and rational,
they have failed to look deeper into the decision making process.
many times, we are also guided by what is Intuition.
intuition is not a supernatural gift, but it is an accumulation of past experiences which we draw on to make sense of the current situation in order to make a snap decision.

love can never be totally objective or rational.
there is no check list that exist with 25 criteria to fulfil before liking someone. maybe 5.
yes, i do agree that we selectively vet out eligible partners through catergories of income, education, family background, religion etc.. we do narrow the gate.
however once across the gate, we 'allow' ourselves to fall in love with that person.
the thoery of social construction of reality tells us that we pick our partners from within our social circle. thus our partners would largely be people who have the same live experience as we do, come from same social class, went to same schools, have the same interests etc.
that explains why we often look for 'connection' at both an emotional and intellectual level.
thru that 'connection' derives that 'special feeling'.

why do i like you?
because i do. there's no why.

why do i bother about your life?
God's calling.

posted by Veen @ 09:32